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19, only child, dad is dying.

Started : 16.9.2015 by Katie

The doctors told my dad he had oesophagus cancer last Friday but that they wouldn't/couldn't treat it. I couldnt understand it, so as next of kin, I spoke to the doctor and she told me he has also got cancer of the pancreas, liver, bowel and bladder. There's no other family except me so I am dealing with this alone. I just wanted to go somewhere and share my story where it would be understood. My friends want to help but they don't understand, even though they try.

7 Comments so far...


1 - Hilde at riprap 17/9/2015 @ 14:43

Hello Katie and welcome to riprap. My name is Hilde and I’m one of the riprap team. I’m so truly sorry to hear about your dad and the devastating message you have just been given. By using the forum I understand that you are seeking support from other young people in similar situations and I hope that someone in the forum will get back to you. It’s good to hear that you have supportive friends but as you say, there is no way they are able to fully understand what you’re going through. You say that you are dealing with this alone and that saddens me. So please remember that you can contact us in the riprap team if you’d like to talk things through more privately. We are all experienced cancer nurses and you are very welcome to contact us by using the ‘get in touch’ form on the website. Warm wishes, Hilde

2 - 23/10/2015 @ 13:19

I'm also terrified that my dad might or is dying from bone cancer right now.

3 - Sue - riprap team 23/10/2015 @ 16:31

It sounds as though there may be a lot going on for you - you mention your dad has bone cancer, and you're worried he's dying. You're welcome to get in touch with us here at riprap (you can see how in Hilde's message, just above yours...) and we can talk your worries through... Warm wishes Sue

4 - Vicki 9/12/2015 @ 14:41

Hey Katie. Atm I feel so low, my dad has cancer of the oesophagus as well. He went to the doctor because he was having trouble eating and getting bad wind and the doctor gave him some tablets but they made no difference. He then got referred to the hospital and we found out he had cancer. As im sure you understand, I was gobsmacked and so upset because we are such a healthy family- eat all organic, lots of super foods and exercise. But then thats what sucks, cancer can happen to anyone. He then had c scans and a biopsy and we had heard so many stories from other people about how they can do an operation to cut the cancer out and move the stomach up and people survive. My whole family were literally so positive...until we found it had spread into his lungs and his liver. The oncologist says he has a couple of years maximum. So thats my story, thought i would tell you about my situation.. I cant imagine what its like to go through this alone however?! im such an emotional wreck and i have my mum (who is still with my dad) and my other family. You are so much stronger than me Katie. We need to keep going(: x

5 - Cleo 4/1/2016 @ 15:38

Hi Katie I'm also an only child and I've just recently found out that my mum has been diagnosed with myeloma ( bone marrow cancer). I'm really scared because I don't want to be on my own. I'm really struggling to come to terms with this and I feel quite down. If you want someone to talk to I'm here for you :) .

6 - Caitlin 7/1/2016 @ 16:54

hey Katie, im 13 and I only part get how you feel. my nan was diagnosed in 2014 had treatment however it didn't work. Shes been given months to year to live! we are a small family with only 5 as I don't actually know my dad! However as you most likely know teenagers like us have so much support around us and I guess this website helps a lot too!! hope you are ok xx

7 - Kiran 20/11/2018 @ 00:47

Hi Katie, I know how you feel you are not alone, im 18 and my dad has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer that has spread to his liver. Ive researched so much about the disease and all it has done is made me feel worse . Same with my friends they all try and help by asking me how i am all the time and checking up on me but it just feels so pointless and if anything frustrating, noone gets it, but we must remain positive and be appreciative of what we have, best of luck with your dad xxx