My Mother and terminal cancer

Started : 19.4.2017 by Kristy

last year, my mother got diagnosed with a terminal illness and yes its hat horrible word beginning with C ... cancer. How do you deal with not knowing if your parent will wake up in the morning??? That's not only the most heartbreaking and upsetting part, but how do you deal with watching them change into someone they never was? The weightloss, the loss of hair, not forgetting the loss of personality and sense of humour? How are you meant to cope at any age, but a young adolescent trying to figure out whats right and wrong? Obviously, this disease has taken over my whole life too, I wonder how my mum feels?? I wonder how every cancer paitent feels when this is now what they have to live with. Luckily, my mum has survived a whole year but theres no tellings on whats round the corner. And unfourtenetly this is the same for many families across the world. I'm so very sorry to everybody who had a parent with cancer and even more greatly sorry to those who have lost their battle. I'm here for you all. x x x

3 Comments so far...

1 - Hilde at riprap 19/4/2017 @ 12:55

Hi Kristy and welcome to the riprap forum. My name is Hilde and I’m one of the riprap team together with Sue and Robyn. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum, about all the changes and emotional pain that you describe so well and the heartbreaking knowledge that one day you’re going to lose her… You are not alone and I hope other forum members will reply to your post. However, please know that you can also contact us in the riprap team if you’d like to talk things over with us more privately. We are all experienced cancer nurses and hopefully can support you with what you’re going through. Please use the ‘get in touch’ form anytime if you ever want to talk... We hope to hear from you! Warm wishes, Hilde

2 - Rosie 3/5/2017 @ 17:29

Hi Kristy, Im rosie, My mum was diagnosed with terminal C a year ago as well. I totally agree with you, its so awful to see them change not only in spirits and personality but my mum was tall and beautiful and now the steroids have made her almost unrecognisable (i don't care what she looks like ) but it makes her so sad. Im constantly wondering how my mum feels and just want to make her better. For me I'm so happy my mum is surving this long however its so scary that i have no idea when it will happen. Im so sorry you going through this, i will think of you and hope things get better. Although sometimes it annoys me when people say that because it is terminal but i hope it does Rosie

3 - Haydon 13/4/2018 @ 10:23

My mum has incurable cancer but she is having maintenance chemo and having scans but I don't know what I'll do if I hear that she has so long to live.