My mums got cancer again

Started : 15.1.2017 by Meg

Hi, I'm in year 11 so I'm 15 and doing my GCSE's this year which is stessfull enough but in September, my mum told us her breast cancer spread to her lungs and nodes, meaning its stage 4 and terminal. She had breast cancer when I was around 7 so I don't remember much of it but we were in and out of hospital a lot as she was having chemo. She doesn't know what route to go down this time but it's not quite sunk in that my mums dying. She's terminally and probably won't last another 5 years. Even as I'm typing it it's not sinking in, I don't want to upset myself but I just can't let myself know that it's happening, I don't want to spend the rest of her time crying over her but I want to feel something. Obviously I'm upset at the situation and as my dad works over time and weekends, me and my sibilings have a lot to do at home as mum frequently gets migraines. I have a lot of stress at the moment and I don't know how to deal wit it. I have to learn lines for my show, revise for my GCSE's, look after my depressed friend, look after my mum and still keep myself happy

2 Comments so far...

1 - Hilde at riprap 16/1/2017 @ 11:15

Hi Meg and welcome to the riprap forum. My name is Hilde and I’m one of the team here together with Sue and Robyn. Although your mum had breast cancer when you were younger, the news that it has returned to other parts of her body must have been a huge shock and it’s understandable that it’s not quite sinking in… With all the other stresses in your life, it sounds like you are going through a really difficult time at the moment and I hope other forum members will get in touch with you. However, please know that you can also contact us in the riprap team if you’d like to talk things over with us more privately. We are all experienced cancer nurses and hopefully can support you with what you’re going through. Please use the ‘get in touch’ form anytime if you’d like to talk... Warm wishes, Hilde

2 - Becky 26/3/2017 @ 16:03

Hi Meg, My mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer in year 11 too, it's the worst feeling in the world and it makes you feel as though nothing else is important. Exams seem pointless because you think - what's the point in putting in any effort if my mum is going to die - which doesn't make sense to a person that doesn't understand but to us, having to deal with this horrible situation, it does. One thing is that you don't have to worry about your exams, of course still do as much as you can but if you haven't already, talk to the exams office in your school about your situation, you will be given special consideration in your exams. It doesn't make coping easier but it is something to worry about less.