1 - Hilde at riprap 30/1/2017 @ 12:54

Hello Naomi, my name is Hilde and I’m one of the team here alongside Sue and Robyn. I’m truly sorry to hear that you have lost your mum. You say it’s been three years since she died and you’re still finding it hard to cope… Three years is not a long time for such an enormous loss and it’s understandable that you’re completely heartbroken. I’m sure others in your situation can relate to that and I hope some of them will make contact with you here in the forum.

I don’t know what kind of support you’ve had after your mum died but you may find it helpful to make contact with bereavement organisations such as “Hope again”, provided by Cruse Bereavement Care. I also want you to know that you can contact us in the riprap team if you’d like to talk things through with us more privately. We are all experienced cancer nurses and you are very welcome to contact us by using the ‘get in touch’ form on the website. And because you’re 18, you can also access services for adults and you may want to have a look at our partner organisation “Maggie’s”, including their online centre where you can find support from both professionals and other young people in similar situations. Warm wishes, Hilde

2 - charlotte 18/4/2017 @ 19:56

So sorry to hear of your loss although i know no one can say anything to make it better or lessen the pain. I lost my mum last November and i feel lost without her. We were so close and she was also my best friend. I don't remember her not having cancer, it's just always been apart of my life. I'm 15 now so i guess you were the same age as me when you lost your mum. No matter how hard my friends try to understand how i feel they just don't understand and i really struggle talking about it so not sure who to turn to

3 - Belle 27/5/2017 @ 19:22

Hi Naomi, my dad died 5 years ago so I completely sympathise with loss, and the pain it causes. I would really recommend going for counselling because it wasn't until I did this that I was able to come to terms with my dad's death and fully move on. You have to remember that your Mum wouldn't want you to be in so much pain. She would want you to carry on living your life and living to your full potential. It seems like something that you would never imagine happening to you so it is such a surreal thing to go through when it does. It is so hard to be happy because you almost feel like you are betraying them if you are. I really hope that you begin to feel better soon but just remember that you are not alone! There are so many people out there who understand exactly how you feel.

4 - Rebby 28/9/2017 @ 09:51

Hi Naomi, my dad died 18 months ago after only 6 months of being ill. I think there are many people here who can empathise with how you're feeling. Belle's suggestions of counselling and thinking how your mum would want you to keep going, are good. My counsellor suggested to write down how I was feeling, which I was sceptical how much it would help, but once I tried it, I found that it helped to just get everything out on paper. Something else that can help with coming to terms could be talking about your mum with people, particularly fond memories? I hope you can start feeling better

5 - 10/6/2018 @ 23:18

Hey Naomi my name is theo and my mum died of breast cancer 5 years ago when I was 9. I'm sorry to hear about your problems and understand what you mean when you try to talk to others but all they do is pity you. I never talk about it with my friends because they don't get it and all they do is pity me.I.HATE.PITY. so I never talk about it with anyone to avoid it.thats not what I'm advising you to do btw but you have to try to form a relationship with your sister but don't try to take your mother's place that's what my sister (who's your age) tries to do so none of her attempts to communicate really work.