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telling friends

Started : 10.1.2018 by Anya

Hi guys, i was wondering if you had any advice on how i could tell my friends that my dad is not well. i told a most of my friends when he was diagnosed but now that he is getting worse i need to tell another friend but I'm not sure how to tell her. any advice welcome :)

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1 - Alice 28/2/2018 @ 09:45

Hi! I was in the same situation as you a couple of years ago when my dad was diagnosed with cancer. I couldn't work out how I could tell my friends and how - in a way - I would deal with their reactions. I think the best way to tell someone is in the way you talk to them most. So if you see them at school every day and talk there, tell them face to face (maybe not at school but that's your choice), or if you usually talk online/via text say it that way. If you're wondering 'how' as in "what do I say?" you could always just say "my dad is not well" and then go on to explain, but you could say something more like 'I'm having a hard time at the moment' then going into more detail. I realise you may already have told her considering you put this up almost two months ago now and I hope it went okay if you have. If not, I hope what I said can help!

2 - Texting 22/3/2018 @ 19:12

Personally, I found it much easier to text my friends to inform them about my mum's health situation. I also would strongly suggest telling your teachers. It just means that if your having a bad day or acting different because of one of your parents having cancer, they'll know to give you space or might not assign you any homework.

3 - Talking About It 26/3/2018 @ 20:37

I am in the same situation as you. My dad has had cancer for months now and none of my friends know. I feel like I've been pushing away from them, but want them to know what I'm going through. I told one of my roommates the other week and I honestly just went in her room crying and asking if I could talk to her. Sometimes it's just best to bring it up. For telling my friends I might ask them all if we can get together to talk since we don't see each other often. That might help because you can get support face to face. (:

4 - Telling friends 4/10/2018 @ 20:57

Hi everybody thought id give u an update. I never did end up telling them because he died less than 2 weeks later the day my dad died my head of year went in and told my class that my dad was ill and then the next day he told them that he was dead. For me I think that was the best way of telling them because i was and still am shy about talking about the entire situation with them. I would of liked to have had the courage to have sat down and gone this is whats going on but i hated anybody knowing in case they judged me for it. Thanks so much for all you help xx