Started : 6.9.2018 by Stella
My dad died in April last year. I wont say what cancer he had because I don't want people on here to worry if their parents are currently battling the same cancer. It has been 16 months since my Dad died. I remember telling my friends he was terminal, I remember how they didnt really know what to say. It is okay. But what I have learnt through time isn't okay is that people compare losing to parents, to break ups, divorces, and pets dying. I went back to school, and one of my friends literally seriously said, "my cat died the other week, i know how you feel" I havent spoken to her since. One of my friends broke up with her boyfriend of 6 months a few weeks ago, she compared her break up with my Dad dying and I broke inside. I think she said that she thought break ups and divorces were worse. My point is that your friends must mean well but they really don't understand no matter how much you think they do. And every little thing that happens in their life they think is the end of the world because in reality, they dont know what pain feels like. Xx
I get you. Sometimes you just want them to say nothing at all. In fact 2 days after my dad died one of my friends was complaining about all her boy troubles. Im not saying that she shouldn’t of but when i think back now that might of been a bit insensitive. I feel like no one cares anymore (my dad died about 9 months ago) also there is a girl in the year below going through a simmilar thing as i was this time last year and i cant bare to look at her. But back to the point i think my friends like to forget what i looked like and how i acted and what death actually is because it is easier for them during there day to day lives. Sorry for moaning at you x