DD, Aged 17

    When people would talk they didn't know what to say which was understandable.  more...


    Mimi - 15 years old

    I lost myself doing stupid things, angry and sad and depressed at everything. I ended up failing my classes, not caring about school, and getting into fights.  more...


    Chelsea - 14 years old

    I stuck my head round the door in the room mum was in, and she looked really ill. I couldn't understand what was happening - one minute my mum was fine and the next she was ill.  more...


    Clair - aged 14

    Something I wish is I could just have one more day with my dad! - to tell him how much I love him and how sorry I am for all the bad things I have said and done to him!  more...


    Nicole - 17 years old

    This time the doctors are unable to operate. He has already had 6 sessions of chemo and is having another 6 sessions. I cannot help feeling I may lose him.  more...


    Rirrif - 15 years old

    I have been staying with my dad because my mom doesn't want me around when she is sick, which is all the time. My dad works at night so I spend a lot of time alone since I'm not with my mom. I'm afraid she is going to die and I'll blame myself for not being there more. more...


    HT - 13 years old

    She has been so strong about this and is keen to put it all behind her.  more...

My mom has breast cancer

Today my mom and dad called me and my brother into their room and I knew that something was wrong, and they had told me my mom has breast cancer. I don't know how to deal with it, I'm in denial about it, and thinking of the worst outcomes. I'm trying to be happy and positive but it's hard. I don't know what to do and I know I have to be strong for my mom and family but it's hard, what can I do to help deal with it? How can I get my mind off of it?


The news of your mom's cancer diagnosis will have been a huge shock for all of you. It's natural that, at first, all the worst thoughts come to mind first. Your mom and dad may still be trying to understand the news, themselves, and may still be waiting for further tests and treatments before knowing the full picture of what the future may hold.

For the next few weeks you may feel very up and down emotionally - it's how our minds react to something that feels like life changing news, and when things feel uncertain.

Many people diagnosed with breast care recover well from their treatment, and go on to live for years - but at the beginning, when the diagnosis is new, you don't know that - so things feel scary.

Do talk openly with your mum, dad and brother if you can, about how you all may be feeling. You'll  probably find they're feeling pretty shaken up too. Ask what happens next for your mom - if she's just been diagnosed, then she may be having some surgery, and/or chemotherapy to start with. Explain that you'd like to support her through this, and accept that at first, she may be feeling stressed and emotional herself.

Don't feel you have to be strong - you're part of a family going through some big stuff - and so you'll have moments where you dont feel strong at all...and that's OK (normal).

It will feel, in these first few weeks, that you can think of nothing else...it's something we do when the future's uncertain. Things will settle down though, once your mom gets started with her cancer treatment, and new temporary 'routines' start. Once you know a bit more about what treatment she's going to have, you'll have an idea how you can support her best.

If you'd like to talk some more about how you're finding things emotionally, or have any questions...I do hope you'll get in touch with us here at riprap...

Warm wishes


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