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    DD, Aged 17

    When people would talk they didn't know what to say which was understandable.  more...


    Mimi - 15 years old

    I lost myself doing stupid things, angry and sad and depressed at everything. I ended up failing my classes, not caring about school, and getting into fights.  more...


    Chelsea - 14 years old

    I stuck my head round the door in the room mum was in, and she looked really ill. I couldn't understand what was happening - one minute my mum was fine and the next she was ill.  more...


    Clair - aged 14

    Something I wish is I could just have one more day with my dad! - to tell him how much I love him and how sorry I am for all the bad things I have said and done to him!  more...


    Nicole - 17 years old

    This time the doctors are unable to operate. He has already had 6 sessions of chemo and is having another 6 sessions. I cannot help feeling I may lose him.  more...


    Rirrif - 15 years old

    I have been staying with my dad because my mom doesn't want me around when she is sick, which is all the time. My dad works at night so I spend a lot of time alone since I'm not with my mom. I'm afraid she is going to die and I'll blame myself for not being there more. more...


    HT - 13 years old

    She has been so strong about this and is keen to put it all behind her.  more...

Two weeks ago I found out my dad has stomach cancer.

Two weeks ago I found out my dad has stomach cancer. I just need someone to talk to, someone who knows how I feel.

The news about your dad's cancer diagnosis sounds a huge shock, and you may be feeling scared, and wondering what happens next? Suddenly the future may feel very uncertain, and everyone at home may be feeling emotional and upset too.

Are you able to talk with your family about how you're feeling? They may be relieved that you're opening up, as it's easier to answer a question sometimes, than ask it in the first place. Your dad may be starting treatment for his stomach cancer soon, and might be glad of your help and support if you feel up to it.

It's a good idea to let your school know what is going on at home, and your family or you may have already done this. There is usually someone at school who can help you - by providing a safe place for you to talk about how you're feeling, and supporting you. This may be your form tutor, the school nurse or a counsellor. Concentrating on schoolwork, and friendships, can be hard when you're dealing with the news of something serious going on at home. Friends don't always know what to say, and perhaps change the subject if you try to mention it. You may have a good friend who understands you though, and can be someone you can talk stuff through with.

You can also 'talk' to other people on here in our forum here at riprap. Lots of people on here understand what you're going through and how you are feeling.

The main message is - don't bottle things up - as it can feel so much better when you've been able to share those innermost thoughts and fears.

Finally, if you'd like to talk about how you feel more privately, you can get back in touch with us (the riprap) team - we'd be glad to listen.

Page updated 13 May 2015