DD, Aged 17

    When people would talk they didn't know what to say which was understandable.  more...


    Mimi - 15 years old

    I lost myself doing stupid things, angry and sad and depressed at everything. I ended up failing my classes, not caring about school, and getting into fights.  more...


    Chelsea - 14 years old

    I stuck my head round the door in the room mum was in, and she looked really ill. I couldn't understand what was happening - one minute my mum was fine and the next she was ill.  more...


    Clair - aged 14

    Something I wish is I could just have one more day with my dad! - to tell him how much I love him and how sorry I am for all the bad things I have said and done to him!  more...


    Nicole - 17 years old

    This time the doctors are unable to operate. He has already had 6 sessions of chemo and is having another 6 sessions. I cannot help feeling I may lose him.  more...


    Rirrif - 15 years old

    I have been staying with my dad because my mom doesn't want me around when she is sick, which is all the time. My dad works at night so I spend a lot of time alone since I'm not with my mom. I'm afraid she is going to die and I'll blame myself for not being there more. more...


    HT - 13 years old

    She has been so strong about this and is keen to put it all behind her.  more...

If cancer comes back

Sometimes cancer comes back. This can be called a relapse or recurrent cancer or it may be that a cancer that was treated in one place in the body has spread to another part.

Then we often say that a person has secondaries or metastasis from the original cancer. None of these situations is a new cancer, they are all connected to the cancer that was first discovered, maybe a long time ago. Finding out that cancer has come back can often be as bad, or even worse than finding out about cancer in the first place. If your parent's cancer has come back, there will be many emotions and reactions from everybody in the family. Remember that the way you all feel and react can be very different from each other and not always what you would expect. Common reactions are anger, sadness, shock and being scared. Some people might completely deny what is happening and pretend as if everything is fine. Others will maybe blame themselves or the doctors that the cancer has come back. It is not anyone's fault that the cancer has come back and you must not blame your parent or yourself for this. Certainly, nothing you have done or not done has had anything to do with this.

If the cancer has come back, your parent may have to have more tests and treatment. The tests and treatments that they have will depend on the type of cancer and where in the body the cancer is. Some treatment will be used to kill the new cancer cells, whilst other treatment might be for reducing symptoms such as pain, tiredness or any other problem that may bother your parent. Although it is worrying when cancer comes back, it is important to remember that there are many forms of treatment that can be used when this happens.