Hi Ella. I'm Rebby and my dad had pancreatic cancer (he sadly passed away last year). I can empathise with how the treatment has made it more difficult if there have been complications; my dad had 3 different chemo drugs and a trial drug but was taken off of them all due to suffering all the side effects. Seeing how it affects your mum is understandably hard, i think everyone here can understand that, but hopefully you'll see a improvement in her condition soon. It's hard when people don't understand, but in some ways that's good because either means they haven't gone through this experience. If you're feeling down all the time, maybe try speaking to a counsellor or a friend (even if the friend can't fully understand)? Also, maybe rather than 'getting over it' it might work to understand and accept the feelings, and be down sometimes, but try and find things you really enjoy to do at others? I hope your mum's situation improves and that you can start feeling less down :)

Hi I have read both of your stories and thought I would also give you advice... my mum also has breast cancer and the treatments are hard like rebby said. I am a big believer in talking to people because like you said pepole may not understand but in my experience people understand how it feels when you are down... a week ago I really hit rock bottom and I told my mum in a fit of rage because I was so annoyed with how I felt she told me to ring a helpline and gave me a number .... it feels such a relief to have people who do care about my feelings and emotion and can also relate... I really do hope things improve for you and your mum :-)