Newly diagnosed brain cancer in my dad

Started : 11.11.2017 by Amy

A few weeks ago my mum took my dad to A&E with really bad headaches and we suspected meningitis possibly at the worst. After scan results came back we were told he actually had a 4cm tumour in his brain and he would need surgery and other treatment. At first this was really hard but I hoped for the best still, he was moved to a hospital in Edinburgh which is 2 hours away from home and had a surgery to remove 80 of it which is good and he will get chemo and radiotherapy soon until after Christmas. We found out a few days ago the cancer is called glioblastoma which is a stage 4 primary tumour which is very agressive, the prognosis online is really bad and the cancer cells of this cancer often don’t respond to treatment so I can’t actually think of a way this could get any worse. I’ve got exams coming soon, assignments and homework, I have a part time job outside of school and I look after my little brother and sister sometimes too so I feel like everything is piling on top of me. My friends don’t seem to care and hardly talk to me as no one knows what to say but this just upsets me even more, my mums always snappy at the moment and my dad doesn’t like seeing me upset about this so I really feel like I have nobody to turn to

3 Comments so far...

1 - 7/1/2018 @ 23:03

this sounds so horrible i am so sorry and m friends are like that now with me and my anxiety but when my dad got cancer people wold always talk to me but say the wrong things.. and my parents have split but my mum was snappy and she was at uni aswell which meant i had to look after my brother and sister too.. my dad went to London and Norwich and Edinburgh for 5 life threatening operations.. i can relate to you on so many levels.. i am always here to talk if you ever need me xx

2 - Chloe 7/1/2018 @ 23:04

ps: that comment before was from me chloe sorry i forgot to add my name xx

3 - Cassidy 26/3/2018 @ 20:44

It is very hard balancing all these responsibilities. My dad has cancer in his liver and there is no treatment they can really do for him. I'm going to college currently and go home on the weekends to take care of my dad. I feel very overwhelmed so I know what you're going through. I would talk to your teachers and see if they can relieve some stress from your schoolwork. Also, if you have any other family members to talk to, that might be the best bet. I feel bad crying to my mom and dad because I think they get upset about it. I usually will talk to my aunt or come on forums like these because it really helps me get out my feelings with people who understand. For your job, maybe if you talk to your boss they can try and make things easier for you too as well. Maybe only work for a short time each week, unless you have to work. Hopefully things get better for you and your family!