DD, Aged 17

    When people would talk they didn't know what to say which was understandable.  more...


    Mimi - 15 years old

    I lost myself doing stupid things, angry and sad and depressed at everything. I ended up failing my classes, not caring about school, and getting into fights.  more...


    Chelsea - 14 years old

    I stuck my head round the door in the room mum was in, and she looked really ill. I couldn't understand what was happening - one minute my mum was fine and the next she was ill.  more...


    Clair - aged 14

    Something I wish is I could just have one more day with my dad! - to tell him how much I love him and how sorry I am for all the bad things I have said and done to him!  more...


    Nicole - 17 years old

    This time the doctors are unable to operate. He has already had 6 sessions of chemo and is having another 6 sessions. I cannot help feeling I may lose him.  more...


    Rirrif - 15 years old

    I have been staying with my dad because my mom doesn't want me around when she is sick, which is all the time. My dad works at night so I spend a lot of time alone since I'm not with my mom. I'm afraid she is going to die and I'll blame myself for not being there more. more...


    HT - 13 years old

    She has been so strong about this and is keen to put it all behind her.  more...

Ali - 17 years old

It is sad and living with the uncertainty is painful, but you still have people that love and care for you.

When I was 6, my mum had stage 3 breast cancer. She underwent chemotherapy and got better 3 years later. Last month, she was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer, as it had spread to her liver, lungs and spine. When I first found out, I was shocked, swinging from crying to feeling extremely positive and normal about it. When I think about the future, I feel upset and almost grief as to what my life will be like without my mum.

My experience at the moment is to stay distracted with the people you love- and don't google it, the searches are always the worst outcome and are not necessarily related to your parents type of cancer. I try and focus on my A-levels and getting into university- because my mum is still here and we can't let her illness grind life to a halt.

My advice is to build up a network of support- let your college/school know about what is happening and maybe ask for counselling. I would also recommend telling your friends that if you're feeling down-it's often easier for them to act normally around you, because it can feel as if you're expecting them to carry your pain. This isn't the case as my friends have said, but having one or two people you can utterly trust and give regular updates on is useful. I have been feeling lonely and overwhelmed with work but I'm focusing on taking each day at a time and getting through the next assessment or deadline for coursework. It is sad and living with the uncertainty is painful, but you still have people that love and care for you.

Page updated 6 December 2016